Family of Four

When strangers meet….

I am sure we have had our share of embarrassment, fumbles and boo-boos when meeting a person of the opposite sex.

It is universal. For both sexes, meeting someone for the first time can be a harrowing experience- unnerving is the word. What do you say to her after the perfunctory ‘hello’?

You may want to pay compliments to a girl on her dressing. If so, you must be sincere in your compliments. Make sure that she is wearing something deserving of praise. You may want to ask her how her work day went. How would you react if she said her day 'sucks'? You may be at a loss of words.

First meetings can be awkward. You are most likely to put your foot in your mouth. So be careful. You don’t want to say too much on your first meeting. Coming too strong on your first date can frighten a prospective girl-friend away.

You must find a way to break the ice. If only we have love coaches around to guide us.

Studies have shown that only about 10 percent of our communication is verbal. The rest are in the form of body language. If so, how can we acquire and harness this knowledge to ensure our relationships start on a firm footing?

Gurus in the field of social relationships have claimed that they have studied body language sufficiently long and deep. They claimed they can now read and interpret certain signs and postures fairly accurately.

Generally, they have imputed meanings into specific areas of body language which are associated with our facial expressions and our physical posturing.

Positive body language to exhibit must include a warm smile. Then you must maintain eye contact when your date is talking. Do not appear distant. This might send the wrong signals to her that you are bored or uncaring.

Another big no no to take note. The gurus advised that you should never fold your arms or crossed your legs. This could mean you have put an end to the conversation. Hold a glass in your hand or let your arms hang freely. If you need to cross your legs, cross them at your ankles and not at your knees.

Lastly, your lady friend likes her personal space; so learn to keep out of her private space. Entering too close too soon can be intrusive and viewed as aggressive. She might withdraw prematurely.

So there you have it. Some pointers on body language.

Are you now ready to use this new-found knowledge?...

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"There is no instinct like that of the heart. " Lord Byron

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